Working Alone

Self Employment Is the Loneliest Job

It is both what you want and the challenge you must overcome. It's working alone, the hardest part of self employment. Find out why self employment is the loneliest job.

For professionals who feel cooped up and hemmed in by an office environment, the thought of work at home seems sweet. But for those who have actually experienced self employment, working alone isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. Self employment is really the loneliest job, one that brings a lot of stress and boredom. Can you handle being self employed, and working alone?

Work…Alone

For busy parents, work alone might sound like an ideal dream. Daily distractions often make it difficult to reach self employment goals. In these cases, working alone suddenly becomes desirable, needed. Successful self employed professionals have to learn to work even with home-oriented distractions. The phone will ring. Roommates and spouses might want to chitchat. People may come to knock on the door. And, if there are kids in the house, they’ll be sure to demand their fair share of attention.

The Loneliest Job

Self employment can almost always be categorized into two basic conditions: times work at home professionals want to be all alone, and the times working alone becomes its own distraction. Finding a happy medium between the two, or better still, learning how to work through it anyway, is the only way to maintain self employment success.

Sometimes, any little distraction is welcome, even wanted. Working alone every single day can be exhausting. Nothing makes it hard to work like a silent house and a blank computer monitor. It’s easy to feel lonely when one is all alone, and no one understands that better than the work-at-home professional. In these cases, it’s a good idea to create distraction. Turn on the TV or let a DVD play, creating noise and voices in the background. Sometimes, it’s actually easier to work with the noise than without – especially if the self-employed professional in question is used to fending off daily at-home work distractions.

Dealing with Working Alone

Self employment is the loneliest job, and working alone is never easy. Take a break if the solitude starts to feel uncomfortable. Call up a friend for a few minutes before getting back to work. Even a small break in the routine can help self employed professionals return to work feeling rejuvenated. Maintaining a regular schedule and to-do list can help self employed professionals stay on track work-wise, and prevent those days where work stays piled up for long hours on end. Don’t work too much. Working alone is something that should be liberally interspersed with social interaction, because staying self employed is an extremely difficult and lonely job.

KC Morgan, SFP

KC Morgan - KC Morgan has been the featured writer in Self-Employment since 2006, using personal experience to create guides to being self-employed.

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Sep 9, 2008 6:09 AM
Guest :
I am myself facing quite similar problems. Though the article dint help at all as I am already aware of the situation. I was looking to learn something on how the lonely part can be dealt with efficiently. Some experiences would have helped for sure no doubt.

I was looking for some motivation and became self employed eventually a few months back but it seems like working alone has turned out to be the most biggest demotivation for me of the all times.
Nov 7, 2008 12:15 PM
Guest :
I agree with the previous commenter. I have been self-employed all my life. I was very productive when I owned a printing business with 15 employees for 12 years. Then I sold that business and opened an online business with only one subcontracted programmer who works from his home. He is not interested in talking about marketing and advertising, which is my strength.

I have found that I have become very unproductive working alone - literally crippled. It's like playing tennis or baseball with just one person. I hired a guy several months ago, and I became very productive for a few months. Then the current economic recession happened and my finances got tight, so I had to let him go. Now I am back on my own, and have become very unproductive again. I know the answer is to get a team together, but I cannot afford one right now. My business has a lot of potential, but I can't seem to get any work done.

I think I need a partner. Any takers?
Jan 12, 2009 12:34 PM
Guest :
Hi there! I am also self employed and very lonely. :-( I have only been working as a freelance graphic designer for 4 months and already I am finding the lonelyness crippling!
To the last guest that needed a partner...if you wanted someone to help you get inspired about your marketing and advertising again, i'd be willing to help! I live in the UK. Swindon to be exact. How about you?
Sep 23, 2009 11:57 AM
Guest :
I like the analogy of playing tennis with just one person to describe the experience. I am typically a very hard working person, but the isolation over the years is getting to me, i feel unmotivated and lonely. I get easily distracted with physical "fillers" like cleaning things.
Feb 6, 2010 7:30 PM
Guest :
I was just "let go" from a work at home job. I was miserable working alone and that was the main reason for being - let go - but I'm not sure what managers are expecting if they don't feel the need to include people that are working remotely into the company? I'm moving onto bigger and better things but at the same time it bothers me because I was with a young company and a lot of people are reverting to having their employees work from home to save money etc. on office space ( I live in NYC)

In the end it costs the company ideas and productivity. I live in Brooklyn and yes - it's not fun to ride the subway during rush hour but I would've felt like I was accomplishing a lot more if I was with like minded people in the same room having fun while doing work.
I tried to supplement my loneliness with starting projects at home with painting etc. but they were also solo projects. This didn't work out. For anyone out there working alone I would suggest volunteering if you don't have a family, working out at the gym and meeting friends for coffee near your house that do other design jobs or flexible jobs when they have time.

I was involved in a music company and it was supposed to be the most "flexible and creative environment".... I had to revive my pulse after every work day and my mind felt like mush.

We are still human, we need energy and to share our experiences every day... no matter what we are accomplishing in our job.
It wasn't a fit for me but for some people it will be a great fit. I worked with a good friend in the company and he's raising two kids and he was balanced. He was able to take his kids to school, come back to his house and work and then pick them up and spend a lot of time with them.

Sure, I had my other set of friends that I would hang out with on weekends and some weeknights, but it never replaced feeling lonely 9 hours out of every waking hour.
May 24, 2010 2:40 PM
Guest :
I totally feel these comments. I actually think I'm somewhat productive, but i'm not efficient by any means. I get stuff done, because I have to get paid by my clients. I recommend co-locations. In my area there is a place called coloft.com that might be a good solution.
Jun 30, 2010 4:16 PM
Guest :
I disagree. I hate the added pressure of trying to work as a team dealing with the same people 9 hrs a day. And the team environment doesn't always get much accomplished. I am fast and good at what I do and I found myself spending more time talking about who is going to do what than if I just did it myself.

I love working from home now, and with the internet and text it's easy to keep connected.
Dec 7, 2010 2:23 AM
Guest :
I can relate to this article very well... i even don't have kids running around as a distraction, and loneliness has become a terrible burden. As far as being hardly able to work anymore, and be at my lonely home-office.
I am lucky enough though, that soon (january 3, 2011) i'll be working at a large company, where i am offered an office, but will be keeping my own business! One can say its "best of both worlds" and i feel lucky to have been offered this opportunity...! :-)
Dec 21, 2010 12:53 PM
Guest :
I've been working alone for almost 5 years, in my own store in a strip mall. At my previous job I was surrounded by about 30 wonderful...and then I got "laid off". Sitting here, everyday, by myself feels like a prison sentence of solitary confinement. Because breaking the lease is not a possibility, I've got at least 2 1/2 years to go. And with the failing economy, days can go by with virtually no customers. When I first opened I kept busy, stayed positive and always looked for ways to build the business. Now, being here is torture. I can't stay motivated...I'd love to have someone here, even just a day or two, to bounce ideas off of... or heck, just have an intelligent conversation. Unfortunately, the misery follows me home at times....and it shows. For anyone out there who wants their own business.....good luck. This 45-yr old woman much prefers being "included" not isolated.
Jan 19, 2011 9:10 PM
Guest :
I have worked alone for over 20 years as a selfemployeed capital equipment sales rep. The phone call is sometimes welcome, even if it is another sales person.The best advise in this article is get a TV for backgound it really can make all the difference. Also a dog or cat is not a bad Idea either.
Taking a TGI Fiday's break is never a bad thing with other self employeed people so that you can talk over those life stresses you no longer have any outlet for.
After awhile the isolation is the norm and things are no longer all that bad as far as being alone at work. This took years to adjust to for me.
If you are a very social person, unless your new self employment option puts you infornt of new people all the time self employment might not be for you no mater how good your idea for a small buisness is.
Good luck everyone.
May 9, 2011 5:39 AM
Guest :
So True!!
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